Monty Ray Vandergriff, Jr. "Jay"

  • Born: August 3, 1962
  • Died: July 28, 2021
  • Location: Wylie, Texas

Charles W. Smith & Sons Funeral Home

2343 Lake Rd.
Lavon, TX 75166

Tribute & Message From The Family

Monty Ray Vandergriff, Jr. of Wylie, Texas, better known as "Jay", passed away peacefully on July 28, 2021, at 58 years young in Richardson, Texas. Jay was born on August 3, 1962, in Odessa, Texas to Sylvia and Monty Ray Vandergriff, Sr. He was preceded in death by his father. Jay graduated from North Mesquite High School and went on to Tarleton State University. Jay began his longtime career with Luminant in 1983. At the time of his death, Jay had been with his loving wife and best friend, Jennifer for 6 years.

Jay is survived by his wife, Jennifer; his 2 children, Lacy and Noah Gage; his granddaughter, Kinley; his stepchildren Blake and Ashley; his mother; 2 sisters; numerous other family members; and his newest puppy dog Jack.

Jay had a very magnetic and friendly personality; never met a stranger. He had many friends that he held near and dear to his heart. Jay enjoyed his work family and acquired life-long friends through his many years on the job. Jay had a passion for all sports but loved the Sooners of Oklahoma most. Jay played sports in his younger years, and went on to officiate sports such as football, basketball and baseball in his spare time. Jay and Jennifer shared a love for travel and took every opportunity to visit many destinations during their time together. Jay was selfless, kind and always there for those who needed a helping hand.

Family and friends are invited to attend the viewing on Saturday, August 14, 2021, beginning at 1:00pm. A short service will begin at 2:30pm followed by a Celebration of Life gathering until 5:00 pm. All events will be located at Charles W. Smith and Sons Funeral Home (2343 Lake Rd. Lavon, TX 75066).


Condolence & Memory Journal

To My Husband❤
Knowing you was a gift from God. You changed my life in so many positive ways. You showed me a new way to look at many things. You made me feel like I was the only one that mattered and you showed me a love I'd never known before. You were a true gift. Your calming, yet funny, personality with me is unmatched. You couldn't wait for me to have time from work to spend with just you. You made me feel so special. From day one I told you many times all I want with you is time. Specifically I asked for 25 good years. You shorted me. You've left a huge void. You gave me so many wonderful experiences in our 6years that I'm so grateful for, but this was supposed to continue for many years! I told you to be the exception. You were the absolute best to Blake &Ash and I am eternally grateful for all the love you gave to them. You are a gem. You were my gem. You were amazing to me. Letting you go was the hardest decision of my life. Our conversations will never be forgotten and you'll always stay in my heart. J2J❤

Posted by Jennifer Your wife❤ - Wylie, TX - Spouse   August 10, 2021

To My Husband❤

Posted by Your wife❤ Vandergriff - Wylie, TX - Spouse   August 10, 2021

Our thoughts and prayers go out to the family first and foremost! My husband and I have been a part of Jay's life for 38 years. Guy worked with him at Schepps Dairy and Willow Distributors and played softball and flag football with Jay as well. We officiated football, baseball, and basketball together and became close friends. To know Jay was to know he was kind, generous, hard working and loved his family very much! He had so many friends and had a personality as big as Texas! I consider myself blessed and my life enriched by knowing Jay and his children and Miss Kinley, whom he adored!!! R. I. P. J Love you! ❤

Posted by Cris Foster - McKinney, TX - Family Friend   August 08, 2021

Jennifer, we are so sorry for your loss!❤

Posted by James & Pat McLain - Rowlett, TX - Family Friend   August 06, 2021

I'm truly at a loss for words. My sincerest condolences to Sylvia, Tonya and the entire family. I have such fond memories of you all. Jay and I practically grew up together. He will be missed by many. My heart breaks for you. Sending prayers and love.

Posted by Tracy Cotton - Edmond, OK - Family Friend   August 05, 2021

My condolences to Jay's Wife, children, Aunt Sylvia, Cindy, Tonya, May your sweet memories bring you comfort during this season of life. I have fun memories growing up with Jay as his cousin. Sending the family love at this time.

Posted by Connie Vandergriff-Helms - Tyler, TX - Family   August 05, 2021

Oh little brother, you cannot imagine the devastation I felt when I got the news. Oh how I missed talking to you yesterday to wish you a Happy Birthday! Your cheeky comments and that outgoing personality will be missed. The memories I hold of some of our crazy antics will forever remain in my heart. My heart is broken. Save me a place and tell daddy I said hi. Until we meet again. Forever in my heart ❤

Posted by Cindy Schultze - GA - sister   August 04, 2021

Jay's humor and humility were unmatched. The first time I met him we instantly clicked. I still remember the night Jay and Jennifer stayed up late when I was coming into town, even tho he had to wake up early for work. He was so full of life and every time he came to support Blake at regattas I would always spend time talking to him and it was always one of my highlights of that trip. I always told Blake how much I loved Jay and Jennifer and I still do. If you need anything Jennifer and Blake please don't hesitate to ask.

Posted by Moath (Mo) Mohammad - Fort Worth, TX - Family Friend   August 04, 2021

We played a lot of sports together Jay! Rest easy brother and prayers for your family.

Ed Wafford and family

Posted by Ed Wafford - Havelock, NC - Classmate   August 04, 2021

Jay, I remember the last time I saw you out by the pool in your dad's backyard. Your dad thought the world of you. He was always so proud you. I know your family must miss you. I also know how happy your dad must be now that you are together with him again.

Posted by Tim Parker - Dallas, TX - Family Friend   August 03, 2021

My thoughts and prayers are with the family during this time of great loss. Jay was a wonderful man. He had a zest for life and a wicked sense of humor. He will be missed greatly.

Posted by Kim Lewis - Colorado City, TX - Coworker   August 03, 2021